In a divorce, there are many disputes between couples. One common issue is child custody. Both parents tend to want the children full-time, but obviously, that cannot happen. Courts want both parents to have significant time with their children, which many parents agree is best, but this still leads to arguments and nasty battles. Some parents even resort to kidnapping their children and taking them out of the state or even the country.
Obviously, this should not happen. Parents should be able to resolve child custody disputes before they get that far. However, many parents struggle with communication. Plus, in divorce situations, revenge is common. One spouse may be out to get the other, and this may mean keeping the kids away from them in any way possible.
Resolving these types of disputes may seem impossible, but with a little knowledge of the law as well as good communication and documentation, you and your ex can work through your issues and make the divorce an easier time for your children.
Here are some effective strategies for resolving child custody disputes and alleviating stress for everyone involved.
Communicate
Communication is key in every relationship, and as hard as it may be, if you are co-parenting with your ex, you need to be able to communicate. Do not avoid the other parent or give them the silent treatment. Keep the lines of communication open. You do not have to share everything in your life with them or even be super friendly with them, but you should at least be cordial. Try to listen to them and empathize with their point of view.
Even when you and the other parent disagree, you should remain as civil and respectful as possible. Keep discussions focused on the child rather than getting caught up in personal conflicts. Stick to the facts and leave comments about how you feel out of the conversation. By showing your willingness to cooperate, you are ensuring the focus is on your child’s best interests.
Develop a Parenting Plan
Having a parenting plan in place can help minimize conflicts. A parenting plan is a written document outlining how parents intend to raise their children after the divorce. This document ensures both parents are involved in decision-making and details when the children will spend time with each parent.
A parenting plan typically includes the following:
- A schedule for the children’s time with each parent;
- Decision-making responsibilities
- Communication methods
The parenting plan should be practical and take into account the children’s needs, age, and development. It should be flexible and open to modification as those needs change.
Working on this plan together can lead to more effective co-parenting and a reduction of conflicts.
Collaborate With Professionals
You do not have to go through child custody issues alone. In fact, you are advised not to.
Working with professionals during a custody dispute can greatly impact the outcome. Seek legal advice from an experienced family law attorney. You should also consider hiring a child custody evaluator to assess your case. Therapy or counseling for yourself and your child can also be helpful during this difficult time. A child psychologist can help you understand the potential effects of various custody arrangements.
Consider Mediation
If you have tried communicating with the other parent, but to no avail, then it may be time to try mediation. Mediation is a popular option for resolving child custody disputes. It allows you to work things out with a neutral third party who can help you come to a resolution you both agree on without having to go to court.
Mediation involves a neutral third party who helps the parents negotiate and find a mutually agreeable solution. The mediator does not make a decision for the parties but instead facilitates communication between them. This method is less adversarial than traditional litigation. It also enables the parties to maintain a more amicable relationship, which is important when children are involved. Mediation is also less expensive and time-consuming than hashing out conflicts in court.
Focus on Your Child
Be careful of everything you say or do, as that can impact your child. Yes, as a spouse, you are greatly affected by the divorce, but your child is also suffering. As a parent, you need to protect your child. Above everything, prioritize your child’s well-being.
Contact Us Today
Child custody is often a contentious topic in a divorce. While parents may want custody, it needs to be in the best interests of the children.
The Colorado child custody lawyers at Tanis McGonegal will help you work things out and get the outcome you desire. We care about how much your children mean to you. Schedule a consultation with our office by filling out the online form or calling (303) 465-4605.
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